How to Find Your Hidden Talents
Most of us tend to develop a limited self-image, and we decide that all there is to us is what we’ve always known there was. As we grew up, people told us we were smart, or funny, or reverent or musical. These solidify into a complete photo of ourselves. We grow up and have new experiences and develop new skills, but we neglect to update our internal resume. When we refuse to revise our self-image, we limit our potential and also neglect to thank our Heavenly Father for all that He has given us. We may have some talents given to us before birth, but often we can also choose to develop new talents, particularly those of a spiritual nature.
The hardest part of developing talents is to figure out what they are in the first place. It might be easy enough to recognize singing ability or acting skill, but other, quieter types of talents may be more difficult to identify. How do you go about uncovering your hidden talents?
I generally begin my search for new talents in my patriarchal blessing. Often these inspired blessings reveal hidden talents to us, or suggest those we can develop if we are righteous. Avoid the temptation to see a common talent or phrase listed and think that this is just something they say to everybody. If the Lord tells you in this blessing that you have the talent, or can have it, you do have it or may develop it. In you, that common talent may be uncommonly unique. Consider making a list of the talents the blessing says you have, and then a list of what it says you may become. Notice the callings or careers that might be presented in your blessing, since these can also be a clue to your talents. If the blessing mentions that you will someday be a leader of women, you will know that you need to work on your leadership skills because you have the ability to become a leader. Other blessings received over time may also give you clues as to your talents. A blessing given when you are set apart, for example, might instruct you to offer suggestions and guidance, which can show you that you have a gift for counsel.
Another place to search for hidden treasures of talents is through the wise observations of your friends and family. Use caution in finding your talents this way. Choose advisors who have wisdom, insight and high gospel standards. In addition, it’s best to choose those who love you and who care about who you are. Like Patricia, they should be able to see you as you can become. Choosing to listen to people who don’t love you may cause spiritual damage, as these people may have selfish motives for listing both strengths and faults and may not be accurate. I always like to say that only the opinions of those who love you count! You may already have friends who point out your strengths. Others, shyer, may need to be prompted to help you locate your talents. You might ask them to think about it and to make suggestions at a later time, to avoid putting them on the spot. When they have time to think, and perhaps to pray, you will receive more valid observations.
You can also seek knowledge through your own prayers. Ask your Father in Heaven to help you identify your gifts and talents and then to help you to develop them. Of course, asking for such help assumes you are willing to do the hard work involved, which may include accepting callings or opportunities that are far outside your comfort zone. I once prayed for help in developing a skill and was given a calling so frighteningly difficult for me that I literally had nightmares about doing it. Over time, however, the calling did help me to develop my skills and I soon stopped being afraid. The responsibility never became easy, but it became possible and my requested skills were improved.
Regularly seeking new gifts, both the ordinary sorts of talents and the greater spiritual ones, can enrich your life and your spirit. It is a beautiful way to thank your Heavenly Father for giving you so many talents and opportunities to serve. As your soul enlarges, you will find it easier to live the Gospel and to achieve all that God has planned for you.